About Queer Couples Therapy
I’m Micah — a queer and transgender couples and relationship therapist. I specialize in supporting queer partners as they navigate challenges, strengthen connection, and build resilient relationships. I primarily use the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and the Developmental Model, and I emphasize hands-on practice so partners walk away from sessions with an embodied experience of how to communicate and collaborate as a team.
I came to this work because my closest relationships — romantic, friendship, and family — have been the most meaningful and transformative part of my life. Love has opened my heart, pushed me to grow, humbled me, and healed me in ways I didn’t know were possible. In my eyes, relationships can be both a crucible for personal growth and a refuge that offers ease, protection, and belonging. Supporting partners in practicing love is a profound honor.
I focus my practice on queer relationships because I know how meaningful it is to work with a therapist who can understand the nuances of your gender, sexuality, and experiences in queer culture without needing explanation. Queer relationships are different in that we aren’t handed a script with traditions to follow. We forge our own way, and that freedom can be both liberating and challenging. I’m here to walk alongside you as you chart your way together.
I work with monogamous and non-monogamous partners, am sex-positive and kink-affirming, and am committed to centering racial justice and disability justice in my practice. Partners of all genders and orientations are warmly welcomed. (While my practice centers queer relationships, you do not need to be queer to work with me.)
If you’re ready to grow as individuals and as a team, nurturing a relationship that is collaborative, resilient, and deeply fulfilling, I’d be honored to guide and support you in that process.
My Modalities
My two primary modalities are the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. I find the two modalities very complimentary! PACT emphasizes co-regulation, collaboration, and operating in ways that are mutually beneficial, while the Developmental Model emphasizes personal growth and differentiation between partners. I also draw from The Gottman Method. Combined, these modalities enable me to help couples get to the root of their challenges and experience fulfilling, secure, joyful relationships.
The Science Behind My Approach
PACT is rooted in three scientific domains: attachment theory, neuroscience, and nervous system arousal and regulation.
PACT focuses on how partners' attachment styles, brain functioning, and nervous systems affect their experiences in a relationship. As a PACT therapist, I help partners learn to interact in ways that promote “secure functioning” and thus ultimately create secure attachment and the ability to thrive together as a couple. Here’s a bit more about the three scientific pillars upon which my approach is built:
Attachment Theory
Research shows that the nature of our relationships with our primary caregivers when we are children shapes the nature of the romantic bonds we make as adults. Understanding how attachment patterns developed in childhood are impacting our present-day relationships with our partners helps us shed unhelpful behaviors and move towards secure ways of being in relationship.
Developmental Neuroscience
Some parts of the brain are designed to detect threat and, when triggered, respond with self-defense. Other structures in the brain are designed for collaboration and maintaining loving relationships with others. Knowing how to work with the natural tendencies of these different parts of the brain empowers us to have better interactions with our partners. Similarly, understanding how neurodiversity is at work in our interactions helps us to work together more effectively.
Nervous System Arousal and Regulation
When stress (physical or emotional) is at a manageable level, we are within our “window of tolerance” in which we can be present and connected to our partners. When stress is too high, we enter states like fight, flight, or freeze and our interactions with our partners go downhill. Self-regulating and co-regulating our nervous systems helps us stay connected.
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